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You are not your partner…..

You are not your partner so you can’t know what they’re thinking.  There is also a high percentage chance you don’t understand why they say and do the things they do.  Add to this the fact that men and women communicate differently and your chances of interpreting their actions and words can be very low.

Misinterpretation of your partner’s wishes can lead you down the wrong path.  In some cases, I have seen couples create a completely wrong lifestyle as each person attempts to meet what they believe to be their partner’s desires.

Now they are both unhappy pursuing a goal which neither wants.  On this treadmill, they see no way out.  Blame and resentment begin to fill each of them.  Communication and intimacy die and the couple find themselves in a transactional relationship and consider going their separate ways.

To keep themselves ‘safe’ each creates a belief structure which tells them they are ‘right’ and there is no alternative.

Of course, there are alternatives.  It’s just impossible to see them from where they are now.

Find out about your partner

This takes skill and a new way of looking at the issues you have.  It also takes acknowledgement of your part in the situation.

Working with me couples learn how to understand each other at a deeper level and to see their belief structure may not have been giving them the truth.  With the skills they learn they feel empowered to approach problems differently and to help each other in times of crisis.  They learn to become a team again.

From this place they can reconnect with who they are individually and how to work together.  Safety returns as each feels safe to open up to the other.

If you would like to learn how then please don’t leave it until it is too late.  Your window of opportunity can be fairly small.  Now could be the time to take action and discover how to reconnect and create a closer dynamic with your partner.  One which will give you a future you didn’t believe was possible.