Take an Active Responsibility for your Relationship

Couples who end up in crisis have usually been practising dis-empowering patterns of behaviour for a while. This could be months or  - in many cases - years.   They can then blame their partner for the state of their relationship and stand back waiting for their partner to change. But, and this is important, by doing so they have abdicated responsibility for their relationship. They have also abdicated responsibility for their own feelings.  They have put themselves in a passive role … [Read more...]

If you blame others then you abdicate your responsibility

I am sure many of us have come across the blamers. They blame everyone around them for their woes.   "If Only....."  is a frequent cry! OK there are occasions when blame is justified..... but..... If this becomes a habit then I suggest it's about time to take stock and consider. If you're continually blaming someone for something then basically,  you've  handed control over to them for your well-being or the outcome you desire.  You're no longer responsible for you.  The other person … [Read more...]

Focus on what you want not on what you had

I put this on my Facebook page a few days ago.  (To follow me go to my page and then click Like) I am now going to expand on this To enable  you to concentrate your focus on what you want.  You have to know what you want.  So set this as your goal. There are, however, Good Goals and not-so-good goals. A Good Goal: A good goal focuses on the future. It puts you in charge of you and the entire process. It should make you buzz! It should and must give you happiness. After all … [Read more...]