Differences are key

One of the problems I hear time and time again in my sessions are complaints that "my partner doesn't see life the same way as I do".  They don't behave in situations as you would do.  So clearly he or she is not compatible with me. Guess what.  Why should they see life the way you do.  They aren't you!  Just because they see things differently doesn't mean they are wrong..... or right. Learning how to understand and appreciate each other is key.  Understanding each other's differences is … [Read more...]

Give your relationship an emotional present

When you hit a crisis in your marriage or relationship it is easy to believe that nothing can be solved.  All you may want to do is to 'run for cover'. The world can feel as if it is spinning out of control and that you are powerless to do anything about it..  Events have taken over your life and now you feel scared and lost.  Stuck in a place of horror and emotional confusion. This is especially true if you are facing betrayal by your partner. Today I am asking you to take a leap of … [Read more...]

Commitment is key

All relationships will hit difficult times.  Those that not only survive but grow from those difficult times are the ones where both partners commit to growing - never mind what. Commitment is key So what do I mean by this?  What do you have to do when you find your relationship no longer makes you happy. When you believe you've done everything in your power to make it right. When you discover your partner has cheated on you. When you wonder if you actually love your partner. When you feel so … [Read more...]

Do you know how to repair your relationship

Knowing what to do to repair your relationship  is a key skill for a long-lasting, loving and successful future.  One which grows from those moments when one or both of you feels misunderstood, not respected or unloved. So many couples I see come to me with a belief that a relationship which started so passionately should either remain so with little or no effort.  Or - and this is almost worse - that passion dies over time and 'that's life'. But part of them knows life doesn't have to be … [Read more...]

Do you value your partner?

When you first met you loved the characteristics in each other.  Those things that made each of you special. Over time it's so easy to lose sight of the differences in each of us that make us special and to lose sight of the value those differences bring. Are you one of those who want to solve problems, sort them out and move on, or do you want to stop and discuss, consider and look for several solutions before making your mind up. Do you value your partner? How you deal with the … [Read more...]