What is your definition of success?

The definition of success is different for all of us! For some it will be to own a flash car, big house and have pots of money in the bank. For someone else it will doing a job they get immense satisfaction from doing. Yet others it will be to have a passionate loving relationship. And for some - just being alive is success in itself. In this current consumer driven age we are all encouraged to be successful.  Yet rarely is it explained what that actually means.  The result is … [Read more...]

Is living in harmony that difficult?

Living in harmony with your partner takes skill.  A skill that's not taught anywhere!   A skill that some find by accident but one that so many don't.  A skill that should be taught, in the same way we are taught other skills at school. So many relationships and marriages fail not because the couple is incompatible but because they have no idea how to get the best from each other and so from their partnership. I find it so sad to see couples taking the divorce route because they genuinely … [Read more...]

One of the keys to Relationship Success

I was browsing the internet this morning and came across a suggestion list for the New Year.  The list, like so many, was suggesting things to give up! I shall write nearer the time on my views on "Giving up" but one of the suggestions merits more than a few sentences. The suggestion was to "Give up putting others' needs before your own." Now in some contexts this is to be highly recommended.  Individuals can be pulled into doing lots of things for others which can leave them … [Read more...]

The Initial Shock of Relationship breakup

The initial aftermath of a relationship breakup can be scary. People all react in different ways and unless the breakup was mutual one person in the relationship is going to experience some fairly strong reactions.  Violent mood swings are common - and natural.  I know - I went through them. So now experiencing various levels of pain what does the 'injured party' do? Some rush off and become incredibly busy Some hide away and mope Some eat -  some don't eat Some cry uncontrollably … [Read more...]