Do you know how to solve your problems?

Today I'm asking those who are suffering from relationship problems "Do you know how to solve them?" You see unless you understand what the problems really are then you can spend a lot of time fruitlessly going round and round trying to resolve the wrong things. If your partner has withdrawn emotionally then telling them you love them isn't something that's going to solve the problem.  For them love could well have died so now rather than feel closer they can feel worse and add guilt to … [Read more...]

Is fear destroying your relationship?

Fear can turn a normally loving person into someone totally different.  They can start behaving in ways they've never behaved before and not how they would normally act. Gone is the loving, kind and gentle person you knew and now you're faced with someone you don't recognise. If your relationship is having problems then one or both of you is probably scared. Being scared is also being in fear Fear of so many things - especially the future.  To protect yourself emotionally you may just … [Read more...]

The Weak Walk – The Strong Discover

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you" When your partner tells you this or you feel it yourself the chances are this is a feeling that hasn't occurred overnight but has been developing over some months, or even years. The person still cares but the spark has gone.  As far as the individual is concerned life isn't the way it should be.  A feeling that something is missing. Something isn't quite right. For many this signals the possible end of the relationship.  If the person feels this … [Read more...]

Are arguments killing your passion for each other

We all argue!   In fact arguments are a sign we care, that we do feel passionate. But arguments can become destructive. Especially if you both 'fight' to be 'right'.  If you both have to be the winner or one of you concedes purely for an easy life then problems won't be far off, as now you're beginning to lose respect. Once you start to lose respect for your partner then you won't be attaching feelings of pleasure when you're with them.  Hurt, lack of trust, and pain are creeping … [Read more...]

Is your relationship suffering from role reversal?

If this is the case then your marriage/relationship could well be suffering. Generally speaking a man's primary desire is to protect, care and cherish his woman.  Most women will need this to enable them to be the woman they're designed to be, to feel safe and secure and so allow them to be feminine. However, if this is not happening then the woman's masculine side will start to take over.  She can become very 'controlling' in order to protect herself.  In most cases she won't be totally … [Read more...]