When love is not enough…..

I have recently had the privilege and pleasure to work with a client coming through the issues of a failed on/off relationship. Sometimes two people are not meant for each other.  This was the case for them.  The reason he found success in his coaching experience so quickly was down to his determination to learn and his curiosity about himself.  By freeing his mind to new ideas he was able to update his belief system and free himself for a new exciting future. Today I received this email … [Read more...]

Don’t let a relationship breakup destroy your life

Some  breakups are mutual agreed.  Both of you want out as the saying goes. But more frequently this is not the case. One wants to go and the other doesn't. If the relationship breakup is sudden then the one taken by surprise can go into emotional breakdown.  That feeling that something has struck you down - you feel wounded but there are no signs of physical damage. Your feelings ricochet from hating them, wanting them back, still loving them, not understanding why this has happened, … [Read more...]

Notice your small triumphs

It's the small things that matter in life.  Why? Because small successes will build into larger ones. This is particularly important when a person is caught up in the middle of an emotional crisis. It's too easy to feel that life is one long struggle with no end to the misery in sight. So easy to focus on all the negatives. But there will be small triumphs through the day which can easily be overlooked or ignored. Stop for a moment and count your achievements so far - either for … [Read more...]

Are you caring for you?

If you're in the middle of a traumatic upheaval it's very easy to forget to look after yourself.  To forget to do the things that you enjoy.  Your focus puts you in a place where all normal things 'go out of the window'. The trauma may be so great that you find you're unable to eat, unable to sleep, unable to think sensibly.  In fact you may find yourself huddled in a corner feeling like a wounded animal. These types of reaction are totally normal.  But it is important to do something … [Read more...]

Are you living true to yourself?

And come to that do you know if you are or not. We all have various versions of ourselves within us which we use in different situations. Don't understand?  Yes you do! There's the person you are at work.  Maybe you're in charge of a group of people so you're the manager.  Or you're the teacher or lawyer or secretary.  Or maybe the housewife or carer. Then there's the friend or person you are when you're pursuing your hobbies. Then there's the version of you  you are  - or were -  … [Read more...]