The meanings we put on what we hear

Is what you heard what they actually meant? We base our meanings on our past experiences and events. So how does this effect your relationship? Well let me give you an example: You say:  "Wouldn't it be nice if we could afford to go on holiday more often" To your surprise your partner takes this as a criticism on their inability to provide, or to earn more money, that they are a bad organiser, that they are a failure, or any other negative interpretation. When from your point-of-view … [Read more...]