Use Language to Focus You

Did you know that the language you use to talk to yourself will create your focus.  This applies in ALL situations and ALL the time. In today's post I want you to transform your day by the language you use.  I want you to: Use language to focus you So what do I mean?  So often we create our own problems by how we talk to ourselves.  Our use of language has a direct impact on our emotional state - from day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute and second to second.  Our focus becomes the … [Read more...]

True Love – a life’s commitment

When couples are going through difficult times and considering if they should be together many will wonder if True Love really exists.  So does it? Yes I believe True Love does exist.  It exists through a life commitment.  A commitment to learn a grow through times of conflict and to work at what you've got and built together. So many couples get lost and find themselves in a place that either doesn't feel right or is not where they want to be. They can end up behaving in ways that don't … [Read more...]

Is fear paralysing your decision making?

When things are going wrong in a marriage or relationship it is so easy to end up in a state of paralysis.  So easy to be so scared of doing the wrong thing, or making the wrong decision, that we end up doing nothing at all. Of course doing nothing isn't going to solve the problem.  So this adds to the anxiety and stress.  Now the person is in a real dilemma.  Frequently, at this stage, they feel there are only two active options open to them.  These could be "Fight or Flight", … [Read more...]

This couple have found out for themselves…..

I came across this blog post this morning.  I do not know the couple involved but I do know they have the foundation for success:..... Marriage isn't for you Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading. I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend … [Read more...]

How do you give love?

An interesting question! But a very important question which I would like you to think about today. Do you give love only with the expectation of getting something back? Do you give love only when you've already been given love? Do you give love without expectation of anything in return? Do you give your love unconditionally? The answer you get is important and will have a significant effect on your relationship. Why? Well, if an individual only gives love when they want … [Read more...]