Some couples are unkind to each other

Some of the couples who seek my help have created a dynamic which is unkind.  They say unkind words and behave in unkind ways to each other and in some way expect this to give them a good future.  Of course, they know it isn't working but they don't know how to stop. My question to them is What does being unkind give you? Most people are kind. When you first met your partner you both spent your time being kind to each other.  That and the chemistry that sparked you both to connect resulted … [Read more...]