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Do You Set Yourself Up for Failure or Success?

Whether you set yourself up for failure or success is surprisingly easy. (And you may not know you're doing it).  You may think you are determined to succeed only to find you let yourself down.  The question is what's going on within you to cause you to fail when you believe, consciously, that your desire is to succeed? Couples I see in my sessions work hard to achieve success with each other.  They practice the tools and strategies I give them.  They commit in a heartfelt way to continue … [Read more...]

Is your use of vocabulary clouding your view?

Have you considered that perhaps your use of vocabulary is hindering your experience of life? How often do you use the same words to describe a feeling? Our use of vocabulary can become a habit and habits will determine our experience of life and how we interact in the world at large. When we come to using vocabulary to describe emotions this becomes even more important. Is your use of vocabulary clouding your view? You see the words we use when describing an experience then become that … [Read more...]

But are you restricting your chances of success?

A couple of weeks ago I wrote about how to use language to help you succeed.  Today I want you take that one step further by asking you "But are you restricting your chances of success?" By the end of this post I hope you will have more insight into what I mean. Time and time again I see clients in my sessions who are restricting their chances of success by the phrases they use and the patterns they feed themselves. They may be about to give themselves a positive outcome, however, they … [Read more...]

Dead End to New World

I have recently had the privilege to work with a client who came to me for coaching, with her specific goal to get her "Mojo" back.  She discovered her Dead End was not true and there was a New World waiting for her. Over a period of eleven sessions she has transformed.  Her dedication to the process and her determination, got her the results she desired. These are her words:   None of us knows what is going to happen in the future – we sail along each day often with the drudge of … [Read more...]

She had become imprisoned by her desire to give

She came to see me unhappy with her marriage, her home and what her future looked like to her.  She told me that she felt unloved, unappreciated, used and imprisoned. As we talked it became clear that she had an immense wish to give and make those around her happy.  She ran the house, doing all the chores, driving their children to whatever they wished to go.  In her words she had become a dogsbody for the entire family.  But she didn't want to 'rock the boat' and leave.  She felt helpless … [Read more...]