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Your day is yours to use as you choose

This is a repost from an earlier one which I want to bring to your attention today.  Your day is yours to use as you choose.  It is important sometimes to remind ourselves that this is so. Before I expand on the title of this post I acknowledge that each person's predicament is different and so their challenges are also unique.  For some, the challenges are out of their control due to where they live or external forces.  These are not the people I am talking about today.  However, that being … [Read more...]

If you are stuck in a rut it’s important to discover why

I worked with this man over a period of a few months to help him to reconnect with who he really is and, as he says below, who he wants to be. These are his words: I worked with Linden through an incredibly difficult period in my life. It was the most positive experience in recent years and the investment in me has meant I have a strong and happy future ahead of me. At 37 I was going through a mid-life crisis and my behaviour materially affected my relationship with my partner of 20 … [Read more...]

What is your inner voice telling you?

Your inner voice has a powerful effect on how you live your life. For some people it is that part of them which is telling them they are a failure or not good enough, or mostly wrong.   Maybe that part which says "I am who I am and I can't change." For them it can be so powerful they become stuck and unable to see a way out. To avoid action it tells them: they must be loved 'warts and all'. This inner voice is harsh.  Harsher than you would speak to any friend, acquaintance, … [Read more...]

How you use your day is down to you

Before I expand on the title of this post I acknowledge that each person's predicament is different and so their challenges are also unique.  For some the challenges are out of their control due to where they live or external forces.  These are not the people I am talking about today.  However, that being said it is still down to each and every one of us, regardless of circumstances on how we use our day. The daily allowance of 24 hours is the same for everyone.  So how you tackle your day is … [Read more...]

Do You Set Yourself Up for Failure or Success?

Whether you set yourself up for failure or success is surprisingly easy. (And you may not know you're doing it).  You may think you are determined to succeed only to find you let yourself down.  The question is what's going on within you to cause you to fail when you believe, consciously, that your desire is to succeed? Couples I see in my sessions work hard to achieve success with each other.  They practice the tools and strategies I give them.  They commit in a heartfelt way to continue … [Read more...]