Do you have a good relationship with you?

Good relationships don't stay good without a deep and committed understanding of yourself and who you are and then an equally deep understanding of your partner. So my question today is Do you have a good relationship with you? Unless you are totally sure of who you are, what makes you happy and how you want to live your life and you are content within yourself,  then the chances of living in a successful, stress-free, loving relationship are going to be reduced. We all have different … [Read more...]

The meanings we put on what we hear

Is what you heard what they actually meant? We base our meanings on our past experiences and events. So how does this effect your relationship? Well let me give you an example: You say:  "Wouldn't it be nice if we could afford to go on holiday more often" To your surprise your partner takes this as a criticism on their inability to provide, or to earn more money, that they are a bad organiser, that they are a failure, or any other negative interpretation. When from your point-of-view … [Read more...]

Are you right for each other?

Hi This post is really for those who are about to get married or set up home together. So how do you know you are truly right for each other? OK so you're madly in love, you feel close, the sex is great - of course this is Right! Women - do you feel protected, both emotionally and physically?  Do you feel you can be you?  Do you feel your man is being the man of your dreams, there for you come what may?  That he will find a way to fix your problems or find someone who can if he … [Read more...]

Divorce rates are rising amongst the over 60s

A report in today's papers reveals that the over 60s are divorcing in record numbers. Many factors are causing this, amongst them are: Longer life expectancy Divorce is no longer a stigma Wish to have new adventures in retirement Financial security means that splitting won't be so financially devastating Yes all the above have their place.  However the actual losses can be underestimated in the rush to create a 'new life'. Loss of companionship Loss of finances - … [Read more...]

Thoughts & Emotions – which do you think comes first?

Which do you think? A great number of people, advocate that thoughts come first. Really!   Well I'm not one of them.  A great deal of research has been done on this and currently a widely held view is an emotion or a feeling will trigger a thought. If you think about it this is logical.  After all if you're walking down a wooded lane in the dark in the middle of the night and you hear an unfamiliar noise your immediate reaction will probably be fear - an emotion.  This will probably be … [Read more...]