Intimacy dies over time – fact or fiction?

Many people believe that intimacy dies over time.  My question is who told you?  Yes, it can die over time - but it doesn't have to. Time is not necessarily the issue.  It's how your dynamic with your partner has changed from when you first met.  This is the responsibility of both of you. Time and again I hear from couples who seek my help that they have become friends rather than lovers.  The sexual connection has died and one or both feel they are now living with their best … [Read more...]

Is the Sexual Connection in your Relationship Right For You Both?

Many couples I see in my sessions have lost sexual connection.  Some tell me they have had no sexual connection or intimacy for years. They may have convinced themselves that sex and passion dies over time and so they shouldn't expect it to last.  If that works for both of you then that's fine.  There is no right or wrong unless one of you is feeling unloved or isolated.  When one of you is yearning for more sex then it is important to find ways to reconnect you both so both your needs and … [Read more...]

Do you know what your partner needs?

Today I'm asking you the question: Do you know what your partner needs to feel so you can both create lasting passion for your relationship? It seems that most people believe that passion dies over time.  That any long-term relationship is bound to turn into just being close friends and that intimacy will go for good. Why should that be?  Should intimacy be the sole right of the young or newly married? The problem is that over time couples often forget to truly engage with each other. … [Read more...]