Do you seek justice rather than accept love?

Today I'm posing the question "Do you seek justice rather than accept love?" This may seem an odd question to some reading this but there is a good reason I'm asking you. So often in life we seek justice and by that I don't mean revenge.   Yes if we've been wronged this is understandable and needs to be resolved. But this is not what I'm talking about here. Justice can enter our lives in insidious ways which we take for granted and frequently don't even notice consciously. Let me … [Read more...]

Are you adding value to your partner?

Do you have a purpose or goal for where you want your life to go?  Or are you running your life on a 'fingers crossed' approach. Of course not!  I don't imagine for one moment that you allow your career to run on this idea.  I imagine several years ago you had a plan for what you wanted to become or do in life and then set about learning the skills you needed to achieve your goal.  You probably didn't stop at stage one - getting a job - and then sit back and do nothing except the job you'd … [Read more...]

The Psychology of Love

I read an interesting article this morning so decided to share it with you so you can read it too. The Psychology Of Loves That Last A Lifetime There are some good suggestions in this article for us all.  I've picked out a couple of quotes which I feel are particularly relevant: So if you're looking to keep that spark going, give your partner the space to do what they're good at -- and make sure to take the opportunity to observe them in their element, when they are "radiant and … [Read more...]

This couple have found out for themselves…..

I came across this blog post this morning.  I do not know the couple involved but I do know they have the foundation for success:..... Marriage isn't for you Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading. I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend … [Read more...]

One of the keys to Relationship Success

I was browsing the internet this morning and came across a suggestion list for the New Year.  The list, like so many, was suggesting things to give up! I shall write nearer the time on my views on "Giving up" but one of the suggestions merits more than a few sentences. The suggestion was to "Give up putting others' needs before your own." Now in some contexts this is to be highly recommended.  Individuals can be pulled into doing lots of things for others which can leave them … [Read more...]