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Walking away from emotional pain may not be the answer

If you are in a relationship which is going wrong you can feel very lonely indeed.  The emotional pain can be intense and the wish to walk away incredibly strong.  To be clear - if you are being physically attacked then get out fast.  For this post I am talking about emotional disconnect. Emotional pain is there for a reason.  It's a signal to stop doing something. In a relationship, emotional pain or hurt can feel physical.  The wish to escape and so remove the pain can feel … [Read more...]

Protecting yourself may not be the answer

First of all let me be clear if you are in a long-term physically violent relationship - this does NOT apply to you.  If this is you then - protect yourself and get out fast. Now that is clear what do I mean by Protecting yourself and why may it not be the answer. When a relationship has problems it is very normal for one partner to close down emotionally to protect themselves from further hurt.  If they do not feel heard or understood a person will give up and resort to behaviours that … [Read more...]