Are you telling yourself a negative story?

It is very easy to tell yourself a negative story. We all do it by the way, so if you are doing this you may be relieved to know you are not alone by any means. Perhaps someone has lied to you or failed you in some way or other and you've decided that this is so unacceptable that this outweighs all the good in that person.  If this individual is someone close to you - for instance your partner -  then you can decide you no longer trust them and once you've decided that it becomes incredibly … [Read more...]

Are you living your today as if it was yesterday?

Our experience and model of the world is created by experiences, events and our reactions at the time to those moments.  Our minds will have created a connection linking the event to a feeling.  This process goes on all the time - whether we are aware of it or not.  We learn and develop based on these experiences.  Good and Bad.  For each of us, of course, these connections will be unique.  This makes each and everyone of us unique. This is why just thinking of a wonderful, happy event can … [Read more...]

When days of despair hit too frequently

It's one thing to have a bad day or to feel down occasionally.  In fact the ups and downs of life are important.  Human beings need variety! But it's quite another thing to have prolonged 'down' days or days of total despair or continual stress.  When the future seems meaningless and without any signs of improvement. Your mind is feeding you these emotions for a reason.  You may know the reason but don't know how to deal with it, or you may not know why you feel the way you do. Either … [Read more...]

How well are you sleeping?

If you aren't having any issues then that's great! However if you are finding sleep a big issue - maybe you're finding it difficult to get to sleep or you're waking early and can't get back to sleep then perhaps you're emotional needs aren't being met. Meeting your basic human needs is essential for your well-being.  If these aren't being met then sleep or staying asleep can become an issue as your mind searches for answers. This is so often the case after a breakup or other anxious … [Read more...]

Do you have someone to talk to?

When life takes an unexpected turn and leaves you reeling you can find yourself floundering and not knowing what to do. Family and friends can be useful outlets but on occasions they can be all too willing to give their take on the situation, push advice your way and fail to understand that you are you and probably not seeing life the way they see it! Remarks like: Pull yourself together Move on Let go He/she wasn't worthy of you You need to........ In your shoes I'd … [Read more...]