Have you lost confidence in your own ability?

Loss of an individual's confidence can have a devastating effect on an intimate relationship. It is important to understand that men and women can, and frequently do, react and behave differently when 'struck down' with a lack of confidence. For many men, they can either feel frustrated and angry, to the point they close down and ‘walk away’ from the problems. Or they can become withdrawn or 'childlike' in their attempts to shut out their feelings. You see most men want to fix.  For … [Read more...]

Do you have the confidence needed to repair your relationship?

Today I want to connect with the couples who want to find out how to create the confidence to repair their relationship. Let me explain. It takes confidence and a strong desire to fix a relationship that is suffering or 'on the ropes'.  Many people are scared to do this.  Scared they could be wrong and that 'someone' is going to tell them so and 'tick them off'.  This stops a great number of people (couples and individuals) from seeking help.  Time and again I am told by clients that they … [Read more...]

Loss of confidence can kill a marriage

Loss of confidence can have a devastating effect on a relationship or marriage.  You feel stuck not knowing what to do to resolve your problems. For many men this can lead to feelings of frustration and anger, to the point they close down and 'walk away' from the problems.  You see most men want to fix.   They see fixing as their purpose.  So not being able to fix is a really horrible place to be. They become angry - not necessarily because of the problems but because they don't know how to … [Read more...]

Why do I do what I do?

Have you ever asked yourself that question? We are all shaped by our pasts and the events that occurred in them. We form our map of the world based on these events and so create rules and behaviours which have served  either to keep us safe or to give us what we needed  in life at the time. Many of these 'rules' were probably formed when we were quite young and could in fact now be outdated.  I'm sure like me you've come across adults who  become irrationally annoyed, or those who always … [Read more...]