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Retirement

Today’s post is completely different from all others.

I will be closing down my coaching services at the end of March 2021.

Like all people who face a change of direction or contemplate retirement (in my case), challenges appear.  For many, it can feel daunting.

For those contemplating retirement, you can face questions like:

  • What will I do with all my extra time?
  • Will I survive financially?
  • Will I still feel I’m me?
  • What will be the impact on my relationship?
  • there are – as always – many more – each individual has their own unique set of questions.

For those facing a change of direction be it at work or within their relationship you will be questioning yourself:

  • Am I making the right move?
  • What will be the impact on those around me?
  • What if I’m wrong?
  • again many other questions as well.

Help to face the questions

I too faced these questions.  I too challenged myself to seek the answers that are right for me.

To help those who also face a life-changing decision I will share with you some of the questions I ask in my sessions with the couples I coach.

When reading the following questions I want you to go to your feelings rather than just the logical mind responses.

So also ask yourself “how do I feel?” when you answer the following questions:

  • What do I want to achieve and why?
  • Is this possible?
  • What are the advantages of achieving this?
  • What are the disadvantages of doing this?
  • What will doing this give me?
  • What is important about getting this?
  • How can I use the values I hold to help me?
  • Are there any values which I will break by doing this?
  • Which of my Needs will I meet by doing this?
  • Which of my Needs will I meet if I don’t do this?
  • What will happen if I don’t do it?
  • How will I feel if I do it?
  • How will I feel if I don’t do it?

Needs – a brief outline:

Internationally recognised, co-founder of Strategic Intervention Coaching, Tony Robbins teaches the following:

Six Human Needs© Tony Robbins

1 Certainty – the need for safety, security and comfort
2 Uncertainty / Variety – the need for stimulus, change, variety and, for some, a level of risk
3 Significance – the need to feel special and worthy of attention
4 Love/connection – to feel connection and to give and receive love
5 Growth – to expand and grow emotionally. To be more than we are today
6 Contribution – to contribute beyond ourselves

How each of us meets these needs is unique. Each person will, in all likelihood, have one or more of these needs which are more important than the rest.  It’s different for each of us.

I’m available for short-term coaching over the next two months if you would like help or learn more on what meeting your 6 Human Needs looks like for you.