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Inner conflict can affect your relationship

Wanting it all is a concept many people experience.  But this can cause an inner conflict which can affect your relationship.

What do I mean by this?  Well take someone who has a great family life – a loving partner and children, but who also wants to follow their dream.  Following their dream will require prolonged times away from their family.  So they decide to put their dream first and their family second.

Now the person they promised to share their life with feels they are no longer the most important person.  The family suffers and at this point can disintegrate.  Perhaps an affair happens.  The children start to behave badly because they feel insecure and scared at the loss of love from a parent.

The person following their dream may, and often does, find that actually achieving what they want doesn’t give them the fulfilment they expected so now becomes annoyed and starts blaming those around them.  Their partner should have been more giving, understanding, looked after the children better, followed their dream too!   I could go on, but I think you get the idea.

The conflict lies within the person.  They want it all but don’t know how to get it and, at the same time, feel fulfilled in all areas of their life.

The good news is that it is possible.  It is possible once the conflict has been understood and acknowledged.

If you don’t feel good about what you’re doing or the way you’re doing it then the chances are you’re in conflict with yourself.  Blaming those around you won’t actually solve the problem as now you’ve abdicated your responsibility for the situation!   I know that sounds tough, but it is said from a place of understanding and is not judgemental.  Everyone has times of conflict when it seems impossible to make the right decision or to sort out the issues.  Understanding how to manage inner conflict and to get great outcomes can make life fantastic and give you all you desire.  It requires new ways of looking at the conflict and understanding your deepest needs first.

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