How do you talk to yourself?

For this week’s post, I want you to consider how you talk to yourself.  We all do by the way!

We think problems through by using an internal dialogue to solve things.

However, the language we use can either help or hinder us through this process.

How do you talk to yourself?

It is so easy to hinder or stop yourself from taking action.

If you habitually find yourself thinking  “I can never solve this” or “They will never change”  or “I am always wrong”  etc ( I could go on giving a list of options) then your mind will struggle with any action at all as you’ve already told it there is no hope!

You are, in fact, scuppering your chances of success.

Global words will slow or stop action.

What are global words?

Here are some examples:

  • Always
  • Never
  • Everybody
  • All

If you use any of these in situations or with your partner then the chances of you doing things differently will be remote as your brain won’t search for new ideas.

For example:  “It doesn’t matter what I want he/she always has to have their own way”.

Change this to “Sometimes he/she has to have their own way”  and your mind will gently remind you that sometimes you get your way.  Now you’re in a place of growth.  You can ask yourself what happened when they supported you and met your need.  What did you do differently?  How could you do that again?

Learning to check in with yourself and the language you use to talk to yourself empowers you to take new actions and change the future.

As Henry Ford famously said

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”