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Check in with your emotional responses and triggers

We all have emotional responses to situations or actions by others.  This is normal.  However, have you ever noticed that some people’s responses can seem, to you either ‘over-reactive’ or, alternatively, far better than yours?

How you react to a situation is unique to you.

You will have created emotional responses to situations throughout your life.  Some will have been created early on,  maybe to protect you from, say, being teased, or to keep you safe from a harsh environment at home or work.

If you feel happy with your emotional responses then all well and good and this post is probably not for you.  However, if you are one of so many who find they can over-react to events and wish later they could have dealt with the situation in a calmer manner then maybe now is the time to find out how to improve those emotional reactions.

Find out what triggers your negative emotional responses

The first step is to understand your triggers.  It could be a word, an event, a behaviour from someone else?

Once you have an idea then acknowledge it.  It may well have served you well in the past. It may have been necessary at the time.  But it may now be redundant and it could be time to work on giving yourself a new and better outcome.

Frequently I hear individuals say it’s all their partner’s fault and it’s down to them to understand them and change.  However, if you are the one with the negative trigger why not ask them for help to help you deal with it rather than ask them to change.

Help with your emotional responses and triggers

People can feel very vulnerable and insecure facing or dealing with their emotional responses and triggers.  After all, it’s part of who they are.

I work with couples to help them through this in a safe and non-judgemental environment so they can deal with the issues that are holding them back or making them feel stuck and so embrace growth.

If you would like to find out more then give yourself a new future in this new decade and get in contact.