Would you like to be on the receiving end of you?

When your relationship is in crisis you can find yourself on the defensive and angry. You will also probably blame your partner. You can feel they have changed their behaviours and created a version of themselves which you dislike.  But what about you?  Are you also responsible?  The answer is YES. If you are also lashing out without any thought on how these negative, destructive behaviours will be received then I would like you to ask yourself: Would you like to be on the receiving end … [Read more...]

Do you create lists – and if so what’s on them?

Most people create lists In a relationship the type of lists you create can have a good or bad effect on your partner. So what type of lists do you create  (either written down or in your mind) - you can have as many as you like. There are the many types of Lists.  For instance To Do Lists DIY Lists Chores Lists Failings Lists Success Lists Resentment Lists Love Lists The Lists that should just belong to you As long as the Chores / To Do Lists you created on … [Read more...]

Before you tease – be sure your teasing is kind

Today I am revisiting the subject of teasing I'm sure most of you have been teased at some stage in your life and on the whole, people only tease those they are fond of. But teasing can get out of hand. It can also be unkind, belittling or even emasculating. None of us is in a position to be certain that what we find funny or amusing will be the same for someone else. Your gentle teasing of your partner could actually be having a hurtful effect on them. They may not say so - after all, … [Read more...]

Facing the truth about your marriage issues

Today I am reposting an article I wrote several years ago on the emotional stages you need to go through to take action. I have done this as I see many couples are suffering today with relationship issues which have been exacerbated by lockdown and the ongoing restrictions we are facing during this pandemic. The Emotional Stages you need to experience as you invest in your marriage and resolve your Marriage Crisis Just to be clear before I get into this post I refer throughout to marriage … [Read more...]

The Best Day Of Your Life

When thinking about the best day of your life most will look back to a big event, some say their school days, others a special holiday or job. Many people tell me that the best day of their life was their wedding day or the day a child was born.  Some memorable event in their lives. One woman, who came to see me, told me her husband had ruined the best day of her life by getting drunk on their wedding day.  So for her, the best day of her life had passed and now anything good was being … [Read more...]