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Before you tease – be sure your teasing is kind

Today I am revisiting the subject of teasing I'm sure most of you have been teased at some stage in your life and on the whole, people only tease those they are fond of. But teasing can get out of hand. It can also be unkind, belittling or even emasculating. None of us is in a position to be certain that what we find funny or amusing will be the same for someone else. Your gentle teasing of your partner could actually be having a hurtful effect on them. They may not say so - after all, … [Read more...]

Facing the truth about your marriage issues

Today I am reposting an article I wrote several years ago on the emotional stages you need to go through to take action. I have done this as I see many couples are suffering today with relationship issues which have been exacerbated by lockdown and the ongoing restrictions we are facing during this pandemic. The Emotional Stages you need to experience as you invest in your marriage and resolve your Marriage Crisis Just to be clear before I get into this post I refer throughout to marriage … [Read more...]

The Best Day Of Your Life

When thinking about the best day of your life most will look back to a big event, some say their school days, others a special holiday or job. Many people tell me that the best day of their life was their wedding day or the day a child was born.  Some memorable event in their lives. One woman, who came to see me, told me her husband had ruined the best day of her life by getting drunk on their wedding day.  So for her, the best day of her life had passed and now anything good was being … [Read more...]

Couples who succeed are doing this

Why do some relationships thrive longterm and others fail?  This is a question so many individuals ask me.  For a couple to succeed longterm it makes a marked difference if each individual focuses, as much as possible, at being the best possible version of themselves. What do I mean by 'being the best possible version of themselves'? It is important to understand and learn what you can bring to the relationship.  If you focus on what you can bring then you become the solution to any crisis … [Read more...]

To admit you need help is a good thing

So many couples leave seeking help until it's almost too late. Frequently many don't want to admit to each other that they don't have the answers. We believe that we should be able to resolve our issues ourselves. This is all well and good if you can.  But what happens if you don't have the tools to do so?  Attempting to solve your problems from the wrong place can often make matters worse. On Friday this week there was an article in the Daily Telegraph headed "Michelle is right, we all … [Read more...]