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The Best Day Of Your Life

When thinking about the best day of your life most will look back to a big event, some say their school days, others a special holiday or job. Many people tell me that the best day of their life was their wedding day or the day a child was born.  Some memorable event in their lives. One woman, who came to see me, told me her husband had ruined the best day of her life by getting drunk on their wedding day.  So for her, the best day of her life had passed and now anything good was being … [Read more...]

Couples who succeed are doing this

Why do some relationships thrive longterm and others fail?  This is a question so many individuals ask me.  For a couple to succeed longterm it makes a marked difference if each individual focuses, as much as possible, at being the best possible version of themselves. What do I mean by 'being the best possible version of themselves'? It is important to understand and learn what you can bring to the relationship.  If you focus on what you can bring then you become the solution to any crisis … [Read more...]

To admit you need help is a good thing

So many couples leave seeking help until it's almost too late. Frequently many don't want to admit to each other that they don't have the answers. We believe that we should be able to resolve our issues ourselves. This is all well and good if you can.  But what happens if you don't have the tools to do so?  Attempting to solve your problems from the wrong place can often make matters worse. On Friday this week there was an article in the Daily Telegraph headed "Michelle is right, we all … [Read more...]

What is your inner voice telling you?

Your inner voice has a powerful effect on how you live your life. For some people it is that part of them which is telling them they are a failure or not good enough, or mostly wrong.   Maybe that part which says "I am who I am and I can't change." For them it can be so powerful they become stuck and unable to see a way out. To avoid action it tells them: they must be loved 'warts and all'. This inner voice is harsh.  Harsher than you would speak to any friend, acquaintance, … [Read more...]

Be the one to take action

Many of the people who come to me for help believe that they are doing 'everything right' and it's their partner who has to change.  I am even told - rather too frequently - that they are prepared to change and take action,  but only if their partner changes first! So now they have put a condition on making their relationship work. Don't get me wrong - in some cases this may well need to happen.  However, and it is a big However, by putting conditions on your own behaviour you are not … [Read more...]