A long and enduring love story

Today's post is a little different. This is a true story of a long and enduring love story.  Fred lost his wife three years ago.  They had been married for nearly 73 years. One day shortly after he lost her he wrote a song to her and sent it in to a local record company competition.  The rest is history. Fred passed away last week at the age of 99 The record company posted this video about Fred and the songs he wrote to his Sweet Lorraine. I hope you enjoy it as much as I … [Read more...]

How is Your Marriage? Does It need an “MOT”

How is your Marriage? We all know that it is a good idea to have our health checked every couple of years or so.  We also care for our teeth and our eyesight with regular checks, even our cars are required, by law, to be given an annual test (MOT) after they are three years old, but do we ever do anything about our relationship.  The closest and most important aspect of our lives.  Have you ever thought it might be a great idea to give yourself a Marriage and Relationship Health Check? Life … [Read more...]

Patterns of Behaviour

We all create Patterns of Behaviour which are usually designed to 'keep us safe'. Let me give you an example. If you're a "morning" person you probably wake talkative and chatty and ready to grasp the day.  By evening you may want time on your own to unwind, mull over the day, have some quiet time and time to re-charge your batteries before facing the evening.  You may find you prefer to flop in front of the TV and be at peace. Now you partner may be an "evening" person.  Their day … [Read more...]

What do you value in your life?

Today I want you to think about what you value in life.  By value I want you to think about emotional needs. You see there's a massive difference between a person who, say,  values Security as their number one value and a person who values Adventure as their number one value. For example, a person - whose number one value is Security - sits down in a conference hall with several hundred other people next to someone whose number one value is Adventure.  Which one will know where every exit … [Read more...]

Will you be lonely this Christmas?

My question to you today is "Will you be lonely this Christmas?" One of the loneliest places a person can be is in a relationship which isn't working.  In fact someone in a relationship with problems can feel more isolated and lonely than someone living on their own. That feeling that no-one understands you or hears you in the way you need to be heard can be incredibly isolating.  To counteract these feelings some will create a version of themselves which either masks their reality or … [Read more...]