If you blame others then you abdicate your responsibility

I am sure many of us have come across the blamers.

conflictThey blame everyone around them for their woes.   “If Only…..”  is a frequent cry!

OK there are occasions when blame is justified….. but…..

If this becomes a habit then I suggest it’s about time to take stock and consider.

If you’re continually blaming someone for something then basically,  you’ve  handed control over to them for your well-being or the outcome you desire.  You’re no longer responsible for you.  The other person is.  You are now playing a passive role not an active one.

Is this what you truly want?

In relationships this happens far too often.

“If he/she loved me more then……”

“If she listened more then……”

“If he helped around the house more, then……”

How interesting!   Now it’s  your partner’s fault for the way you feel.  But you create your feelings – no-one else does.  Virtually all the time you and only you are in charge of how you decide to feel and react (except in cases of physical or mental abuse or substance abuse – in which case run).

Do not allow yourself to abdicate your responsibility

If you’d like to know more on how to take back control of you and discover how you can create the life you  want and need – at the same time meeting your partner’s needs – then do get in touch.

The results may surprise you.