You ARE special

Everyone is special in their own unique way. That includes you.  You ARE special.

It’s so easy to look at others and believe they are more intelligent, prettier, more handsome, funnier, more empathetic…. than you are.

However we all have gifts, abilities and strengths –  there will be some thing you are brilliant at which leaves those around you in awe – but to you comes as 2nd nature!

It’s easy to see it in others isn’t it…..  The brilliant business man, the wonderful singer, the amazing dancer…..   and it’s also very easy to wish to be like them!

However what you don’t know is the amazing business man probably can’t play the piano like Rubenstein, the brilliant dancer probably needs an accountant to sort out his finances……

Believing those around you are better than you is easy to do.  Understanding that each and everyone of us has strengths can be harder to take on-board. Especially if the one we love has taken to criticizing us for our supposed failings.

Each person in a Relationship is Special

You don’t both need to be good at everything!  In fact you shouldn’t be good at everything!  You are each unique.  You each bring unique strengths and qualities to your relationship.

It’s so easy to find yourselves picking on each other’s perceived weaknesses rather than appreciating each other’s strengths.  Or, alternatively, ending up in a mini power struggle attempting to prove you are better than the other!

Neither of these actions are very conducive to a happy, loving team.

A relationship is a team

It’s the home team. The team which you created and should be designed to win against all odds and outside intrusions.  The team that’s solid and knows where it’s strengths lie and how to fill the gaps where needed.

All teams need to understand the members of the team.  In your case – each other!   To work effectively together you not only need to know each other’s strengths but your values and needs.  If you know what the other team member needs to make him/her happy then you can make sure you provide it.  If you learn what your other team member values and why  then you can help supply it!

So finding out what makes each of you extraordinary – so you can be more of you than you have been up to now  – will allow your team to grow, develop and achieve and be incredibly successful!

You will also be able to pass on these skills to your children who will have a wonderful model on which to base their futures.

Most teams benefit from some coaching at some point to hone their skills.   If you feel yours is in need of some help then do get in touch.