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What is your inner voice telling you?

Your inner voice has a powerful effect on how you live your life. For some people it is that part of them which is telling them they are a failure or not good enough, or mostly wrong.   Maybe that part which says "I am who I am and I can't change." For them it can be so powerful they become stuck and unable to see a way out. To avoid action it tells them: they must be loved 'warts and all'. This inner voice is harsh.  Harsher than you would speak to any friend, acquaintance, … [Read more...]

Connect with your True Identity

I see many couples and individuals in my sessions who have lost connection with their true identity.  Many say to me they've become someone they don't like and have lost touch with the person they were.  This feeling of lost identity shows up in feeling stuck, lost, scared and, very frequently, resorting to behaviours that do nothing to help them or their partner. My job in these situations is to help my client Connect with their True Identity. He or she then feels safe.  Safe to be who they … [Read more...]

How do you talk to yourself?

Today I want you to think about how you talk to yourself. So often we can talk to ourselves much more harshly than we would speak to any friend, acquaintance, colleague or partner.  We can be over critical of our behaviour, our lack of focus, our ability to procrastinate......... This can be OK and, in moderation, a good thing, especially if this is your method of kick-starting yourself.  But are you being kind to yourself too?   So often the way we speak to ourselves can create a limiting … [Read more...]

What is your definition of success?

The definition of success is different for all of us! For some it will be to own a flash car, big house and have pots of money in the bank. For someone else it will doing a job they get immense satisfaction from doing. Yet others it will be to have a passionate loving relationship. And for some - just being alive is success in itself. In this current consumer driven age we are all encouraged to be successful.  Yet rarely is it explained what that actually means.  The result is … [Read more...]

Are you telling yourself a negative story?

It is very easy to tell yourself a negative story. We all do it by the way, so if you are doing this you may be relieved to know you are not alone by any means. Perhaps someone has lied to you or failed you in some way or other and you've decided that this is so unacceptable that this outweighs all the good in that person.  If this individual is someone close to you - for instance your partner -  then you can decide you no longer trust them and once you've decided that it becomes incredibly … [Read more...]