Free yourself to become the best version of you

If you are unable to be the best version of you in your relationship then your relationship will suffer. Finding out what matters to you is vital if your relationship is failing.  So often couples create behaviours which are counter to what they believe. They then use these behaviours to fix … [Read more...]

Is fear paralysing your decision making?

When things are going wrong in a marriage or relationship it is so easy to end up in a state of paralysis.  So easy to be so scared of doing the wrong thing, or making the wrong decision, that we end up doing nothing at all. Of course doing nothing isn't going to solve the problem.  So this adds … [Read more...]

If you blame others then you abdicate your responsibility

I am sure many of us have come across the blamers. They blame everyone around them for their woes.   "If Only....."  is a frequent cry! OK there are occasions when blame is justified..... but..... If this becomes a habit then I suggest it's about time to take stock and consider. If you're … [Read more...]

Do you have a good relationship with you?

Good relationships don't stay good without a deep and committed understanding of yourself and who you are and then an equally deep understanding of your partner. So my question today is Do you have a good relationship with you? Unless you are totally sure of who you are, what makes you happy … [Read more...]

The meanings we put on what we hear

Is what you heard what they actually meant? We base our meanings on our past experiences and events. So how does this effect your relationship? Well let me give you an example: You say:  "Wouldn't it be nice if we could afford to go on holiday more often" To your surprise your partner … [Read more...]