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For Couples in Crisis: Have you lost sight of the Positives

When a relationship is in crisis couples can easily lose sight of any positives.  The issue here is one of focus.  When in crisis it is all too easy only to focus on the negatives. The problem is if you focus on the negatives - be that behaviours, problems, issues or emotions - that is what you … [Read more...]

Do you know how to fight for your relationship

Many couples fight. Couples can fight over a long period of time.  Months to years.  They fight but they don't resolve.  It hurts and is very painful. Many do not know how to fight for their relationship because the pain of where they are is so great it doesn't seem possible to do. The arguments … [Read more...]

Is Fear Running You?

One of the problems many couples have when their relationship is suffering is one of both of you can close down emotionally and create a pattern of survival to protect yourself. Fear This is a fear state designed to keep you safe.  This can turn a normally loving person into someone very … [Read more...]

My Partner Doesn’t Understand Me

How often have I heard that statement.  Clients come to see me with "My Partner Doesn't Understand Me" as their focus on their relationship. They tell me they feel they've been banging their head against a brick wall and don't feel heard, understood or noticed. The problem is we each have a … [Read more...]

The answer to your problems is probably not what you think

Are you sure you know what’s causing the problems you’re experiencing right now? You see so often the actual problem is not the what you think it is. Let’s consider the following example: Jennifer works as a security guard.  She is in charge of unlocking the building every morning. All doors … [Read more...]