No one relishes being controlled

I have yet to come across anyone who tells me their burning ambition is to be controlled by their partner! But I come across couple after couple where one partner is 'hell-bent' on controlling the other. On first appearances this may not seem obvious however through one individual's desire to … [Read more...]

How are you meeting your need to receive attention?

Today I am posing this question: "How are you meeting your need to receive attention?" I know this may sound a bit strange.  Rather demanding to some.  Rather scary to others.  However the fact is we all have a need to feel we are special. We are here for a reason.  We are important.  … [Read more...]

Be in Harmony with your Partner

Being and living in harmony with your partner does not mean you have to be passive.   But living in harmony takes skill. A skill that's not taught in our schools!   A skill that some find by accident but one that so many don't.  A skill that should be taught, in the same way we are taught other … [Read more...]

How do you think about your partner?

When you think about your partner what comes to mind?   What do you focus on? One of the most important questions you can ask yourself is “What do I want from my relationship?” You now need to be absolutely honest with yourself. Write down the answers as they flash into your mind.  It … [Read more...]

Close down the pain then you close down the love

Did you know that if you close down the pain then you close down the love? I see many clients who tell me they feel nothing.  No love for their partner, no love or feelings for their family.  "Nothing much at all really" Because if you close down the pain you also down the love.  You enter an … [Read more...]