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Curiosity is king

When couples come to my sessions one of the things I look for is how curious they are to find the real truth behind the problems they have. You see it is so easy to assume that your relationship 'is the way it is' without discovering the reasons behind the problems.  So many arguments and issues … [Read more...]

Control is never the answer

Many couples who come to see me looking for answers to their relationship problems complain that one of them has become a controller.  Control is never the answer. This applies to both men and women - so it is by no means the norm these days to hear the woman say she is being controlled by her … [Read more...]

Why do people cheat?

Why is it that a relationship or marriage which started out with such hope and love falls apart?  Why is it one or other of you cheats?  What do I mean by cheating? Before I answer these questions I want it to be absolutely clear.  Having an affair is never the answer. Now to those questions.  … [Read more...]

Relationship Passion Killers

No one enters into a marriage or relationship with the intention of killing it.  However time and again I see couples who are destroying their relationship.   Understanding what a passion killer is is step one to creating a better relationship. Today I am focusing on three passion killers (there … [Read more...]

She had become a nagger

A couple came to see me recently at breaking point.  She had become a nagger - and she knew she had. He had taken to either hiding in his study or going out with friends to avoid the onslaught.  Communication was becoming hostile.  Intimacy was all but dead. What neither understood was why they … [Read more...]