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Build a better story

Many couples I see in my sessions have created stories for themselves about each other which frequently are not true.  One, or both of them have decided what the other's motives are.  What they are thinking. What they are feeling. So how do you know if your story is true?  Unless you are living … [Read more...]

Have you learnt what to give

Time and again I see couples in crisis who haven't learnt how to give what each other needs. Each believes they are a giver.  And by and large they are.  Many give with love and all it seems to have do is destroy their bond and their relationship. So why is the marriage failing.  Why are each … [Read more...]

How do you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion

How you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion - or argument  - will have a major effect on the state of your relationship. If arguments never seem to get anywhere or become more and more frequent then you need to find out why.  Solving your issues may seem impossible.  They probably … [Read more...]

A new relationship 20 years in

I recently worked with this couple over a period of a few months.  Their open-minded desire to reach the truth has given them a future neither thought possible. These following words have been written by Nic: Nic and Louise - a new relationship 20 years in After 20 years together, running a … [Read more...]

For Couples in Crisis: Have you lost sight of the Positives

When a relationship is in crisis couples can easily lose sight of any positives.  The issue here is one of focus.  When in crisis it is all too easy only to focus on the negatives. The problem is if you focus on the negatives - be that behaviours, problems, issues or emotions - that is what you … [Read more...]