Be the one to take action

Many of the people who come to me for help believe that they are doing 'everything right' and it's their partner who has to change.  I am even told - rather too frequently - that they are prepared to change and take action,  but only if their partner changes first! So now they have put a … [Read more...]

Commitment is key

One of the hardest issues couples face when their relationship is in crisis is creating the commitment to repair it. If one of you is already looking for an exit then this commitment feels almost impossible to give.  You've already convinced yourself that the future with your partner is not going … [Read more...]

Protecting yourself may not be the answer

First of all let me be clear if you are in a long-term physically violent relationship - this does NOT apply to you.  If this is you then - protect yourself and get out fast. Now that is clear what do I mean by Protecting yourself and why may it not be the answer. When a relationship has … [Read more...]

Does Relationship Coaching Work?

I frequently get asked "Does Relationship Coaching Work?" This is a valid question for many couples seeking my help.  I wrote on this topic a few years ago and believe it is so important that I have repeated it for you today. The short answer to the question is Yes.  But that does not mean all … [Read more...]

Keys for Success

Many couples who attend my sessions do not know how to be successful in their relationship.  They don't know the keys for success. My question to you today is do you know how to make your partner happy? Key for success No 1 Judge.  The answer here is simple.  Don't.  In a moment of conflict, … [Read more...]