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Control is never the answer

Many couples who come to see me looking for answers to their relationship problems complain that one of them has become a controller.  Control is never the answer. This applies to both men and women - so it is by no means the norm these days to hear the woman say she is being controlled by her … [Read more...]

Relationship Tip: Give What They Need

Many couples I see tell me they are unable to give love to each other. However they still have feelings for each other.  They've developed patterns of behaviour which neither likes. The couple have created a stalemate. Neither is prepared to give until they see some effort by their partner.  But … [Read more...]

How do you get from pain to happiness

One of the frequent questions I get asked by couples is how do we get from pain to happiness.  What did we do to end up here? I see many couples and individuals who tell me one thing only to focus on the opposite. "I want to be closer to my partner" "I want to let go of the pain" "I want … [Read more...]

Do You Set Yourself Up for Failure or Success?

Whether you set yourself up for failure or success is surprisingly easy. (And you may not know you're doing it).  You may think you are determined to succeed only to find you let yourself down.  The question is what's going on within you to cause you to fail when you believe, consciously, that your … [Read more...]

Marriage Counselling: Put your Partner First

So what do I mean by "Put Your Partner First"?  To couples in crisis this can sound daunting and completely alien to how you are feeling right now. If your partner does not feel they are important to you then they will seek that need elsewhere. Really! One of basic needs in life is to feel … [Read more...]