Relationship Tip: Give What They Need

Many couples I see tell me they are unable to give love to each other. However they still have feelings for each other.  They've developed patterns of behaviour which neither likes. The couple have created a stalemate. Neither is prepared to give until they see some effort by their partner.  But … [Read more...]

How do you get from pain to happiness

One of the frequent questions I get asked by couples is how do we get from pain to happiness.  What did we do to end up here? I see many couples and individuals who tell me one thing only to focus on the opposite. "I want to be closer to my partner" "I want to let go of the pain" "I want … [Read more...]

Do You Set Yourself Up for Failure or Success?

Whether you set yourself up for failure or success is surprisingly easy. (And you may not know you're doing it).  You may think you are determined to succeed only to find you let yourself down.  The question is what's going on within you to cause you to fail when you believe, consciously, that your … [Read more...]

Marriage Counselling: Put your Partner First

So what do I mean by "Put Your Partner First"?  To couples in crisis this can sound daunting and completely alien to how you are feeling right now. If your partner does not feel they are important to you then they will seek that need elsewhere. Really! One of basic needs in life is to feel … [Read more...]

The reach doesn’t have to outstretch your grasp

Many couples I see in my sessions do not know how to reach each other and create that connection where both feel safe and secure emotionally. From the men I frequently pick up they feel their woman is beyond their grasp. They have no idea how to respond to what seems to them to be … [Read more...]