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Are you sure you understand what your partner is saying?

My post today is all about questioning the messages you believe you hear from your partner. In times of difficulty, are you sure you understand what your partner is actually saying? Or are you missing their real message? When a relationship is in turmoil or suffering it is so easy to misinterpret what you hear. Our brains create meaning based on past information and learned responses. It's how we make sense of the world. It's how we keep ourselves safe. However, the issue here is - your … [Read more...]

We all want an extraordinary relationship

When couples come to see me they have lost the ability to create an extraordinary relationship.  The one they had when they first met. They have lost  that amazing connection? Long-lasting, loving and passionate relationships don't just happen.  They need a determination to work together to keep the love and passion alive.  The commitment has to be total even when there are problems.  A commitment to work through the issues together and to grow to help each other through. If you want your … [Read more...]

What makes a relationship passionate?

For a relationship to be passionate a couple needs to understand their differences.  A relationship works based on things you have in common.  Passion comes from your differences. So what do I mean by that? Men and women run a different model of the world.  They communicate differently and they have different needs and work from different energies.  Masculine and feminine energies. Both men and women have desires.  How those desires are met are different for the two sexes.  For women … [Read more...]

Many Couples Fail to Understand The Truth Behind the Pain

Many couples in crisis, I see have failed to understand the truth behind the pain they're experiencing. Where are you today? We all create perceptions on what we believe.  These perceptions are based on what has happened in the past and how we perceive the future will be. The feelings we give ourselves feel real but so often they may not be true.  So you may have created a belief for yourself which has no foundation.  Unless you take time to really find out the truth you could make a really … [Read more...]

How do you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion

How you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion - or argument  - will have a major effect on the state of your relationship. If arguments never seem to get anywhere or become more and more frequent then you need to find out why.  Solving your issues may seem impossible.  They probably are unless you understand what you are both doing to create them. And what you are not doing to solve them. You see men and women work differently.  They think differently.  The act … [Read more...]