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How do you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion

How you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion - or argument  - will have a major effect on the state of your relationship. If arguments never seem to get anywhere or become more and more frequent then you need to find out why.  Solving your issues may seem impossible.  They probably … [Read more...]

Curiosity is king

When couples come to my sessions one of the things I look for is how curious they are to find the real truth behind the problems they have. You see it is so easy to assume that your relationship 'is the way it is' without discovering the reasons behind the problems.  So many arguments and issues … [Read more...]

Control is never the answer

Many couples who come to see me looking for answers to their relationship problems complain that one of them has become a controller.  Control is never the answer. This applies to both men and women - so it is by no means the norm these days to hear the woman say she is being controlled by her … [Read more...]

Learn to understand your emotions

One of the skills successful couples have learnt is to understand their emotions and see they are there for a reason.  They have learnt to respond positively to each other's emotions - whatever they are. Emotions are information. So what do I mean.  Well they are very useful.  Some are there … [Read more...]

How do you keep a relationship passionate?

Today's post applies to those couples who are struggling to keep their relationship passionate and connected at a deep level. I see so many couples in my sessions where one or both of them have retreated into themselves.  They have created a method of 'coping' with life and their relationship.  … [Read more...]