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Curiosity is king

When couples come to my sessions one of the things I look for is how curious they are to find the real truth behind the problems they have. You see it is so easy to assume that your relationship 'is the way it is' without discovering the reasons behind the problems.  So many arguments and issues … [Read more...]

Control is never the answer

Many couples who come to see me looking for answers to their relationship problems complain that one of them has become a controller.  Control is never the answer. This applies to both men and women - so it is by no means the norm these days to hear the woman say she is being controlled by her … [Read more...]

Learn to understand your emotions

One of the skills successful couples have learnt is to understand their emotions and see they are there for a reason.  They have learnt to respond positively to each other's emotions - whatever they are. Emotions are information. So what do I mean.  Well they are very useful.  Some are there … [Read more...]

How do you keep a relationship passionate?

Today's post applies to those couples who are struggling to keep their relationship passionate and connected at a deep level. I see so many couples in my sessions where one or both of them have retreated into themselves.  They have created a method of 'coping' with life and their relationship.  … [Read more...]

Men and Women Communicate Differently

Men and women communicate differently.  Nature and evolution designed us to do so. However recently society has dictated that we shouldn't have to! In the world of work, hobbies, etc there are not many problems.  Humans are communicators and we've learnt to communicate well.  As men and women we … [Read more...]