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We all want an extraordinary relationship

When couples come to see me they have lost the ability to create an extraordinary relationship.  The one they had when they first met. They have lost  that amazing connection? Long-lasting, loving and passionate relationships don't just happen.  They need a determination to work together to keep the love and passion alive.  The commitment has to be total even when there are problems.  A commitment to work through the issues together and to grow to help each other through. If you want your … [Read more...]

What makes a relationship passionate?

For a relationship to be passionate a couple needs to understand their differences.  A relationship works based on things you have in common.  Passion comes from your differences. So what do I mean by that? Men and women run a different model of the world.  They communicate differently and they have different needs and work from different energies.  Masculine and feminine energies. Both men and women have desires.  How those desires are met are different for the two sexes.  For women … [Read more...]

Many Couples Fail to Understand The Truth Behind the Pain

Many couples in crisis, I see have failed to understand the truth behind the pain they're experiencing. Where are you today? We all create perceptions on what we believe.  These perceptions are based on what has happened in the past and how we perceive the future will be. The feelings we give ourselves feel real but so often they may not be true.  So you may have created a belief for yourself which has no foundation.  Unless you take time to really find out the truth you could make a really … [Read more...]

How do you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion

How you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion - or argument  - will have a major effect on the state of your relationship. If arguments never seem to get anywhere or become more and more frequent then you need to find out why.  Solving your issues may seem impossible.  They probably are unless you understand what you are both doing to create them. And what you are not doing to solve them. You see men and women work differently.  They think differently.  The act … [Read more...]

Curiosity is king

When couples come to my sessions one of the things I look for is how curious they are to find the real truth behind the problems they have. You see it is so easy to assume that your relationship 'is the way it is' without discovering the reasons behind the problems.  So many arguments and issues are symptoms! What do I mean by that. Arguments can be triggered by one or both of you not feeling safe and secure in your relationship.  If you are not feeling safe you will move towards … [Read more...]