Have you learnt what to give

Time and again I see couples in crisis who haven't learnt how to give what each other needs. Each believes they are a giver.  And by and large they are.  Many give with love and all it seems to have do is destroy their bond and their relationship. So why is the marriage failing.  Why are each … [Read more...]

How do you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion

How you deal with the aftermath of a difference of opinion - or argument  - will have a major effect on the state of your relationship. If arguments never seem to get anywhere or become more and more frequent then you need to find out why.  Solving your issues may seem impossible.  They probably … [Read more...]

A new relationship 20 years in

I recently worked with this couple over a period of a few months.  Their open-minded desire to reach the truth has given them a future neither thought possible. These following words have been written by Nic: Nic and Louise - a new relationship 20 years in After 20 years together, running a … [Read more...]

Curiosity is king

When couples come to my sessions one of the things I look for is how curious they are to find the real truth behind the problems they have. You see it is so easy to assume that your relationship 'is the way it is' without discovering the reasons behind the problems.  So many arguments and issues … [Read more...]

Control is never the answer

Many couples who come to see me looking for answers to their relationship problems complain that one of them has become a controller.  Control is never the answer. This applies to both men and women - so it is by no means the norm these days to hear the woman say she is being controlled by her … [Read more...]