Learn to understand your emotions

One of the skills successful couples have learnt is to understand their emotions and see they are there for a reason.  They have learnt to respond positively to each other's emotions - whatever they are. Emotions are information. So what do I mean.  Well they are very useful.  Some are there … [Read more...]

Things ain’t what they used to be…

When you look back at the start of your relationship you will probably remember how wonderful you felt and how amazing your partner was.  Nothing could possibly go wrong.  And yet maybe for some of you reading this post the statement that comes to mind is Things ain't what they used to be Where … [Read more...]

You can become master of your emotions

So many people I see are not actually mastering their emotional responses to their partner.  They react to an event because they have created an automatic response to it.  They don't bother - or don't know how - to find out the truth. So when their partner gets cross, frustrated or angry they … [Read more...]

Are you in charge of your emotions?

My question to you today is "Are you in charge of your emotions?".  Many of my clients respond "Yes" when I ask them this!  And quite understandably they believe they are. But we create our emotions based on our interpretation of events.  Frequently this can be a 'knee-jerk' reaction to something … [Read more...]

What do you value in your life?

Today I want you to think about what you value in life.  By value I want you to think about emotional needs. You see there's a massive difference between a person who, say,  values Security as their number one value and a person who values Adventure as their number one value. For example, a … [Read more...]