Things ain’t what they used to be…

When you look back at the start of your relationship you will probably remember how wonderful you felt and how amazing your partner was.  Nothing could possibly go wrong.  And yet maybe for some of you reading this post the statement that comes to mind is Things ain't what they used to be Where … [Read more...]

You can become master of your emotions

So many people I see are not actually mastering their emotional responses to their partner.  They react to an event because they have created an automatic response to it.  They don't bother - or don't know how - to find out the truth. So when their partner gets cross, frustrated or angry they … [Read more...]

Are you in charge of your emotions?

My question to you today is "Are you in charge of your emotions?".  Many of my clients respond "Yes" when I ask them this!  And quite understandably they believe they are. But we create our emotions based on our interpretation of events.  Frequently this can be a 'knee-jerk' reaction to something … [Read more...]

What do you value in your life?

Today I want you to think about what you value in life.  By value I want you to think about emotional needs. You see there's a massive difference between a person who, say,  values Security as their number one value and a person who values Adventure as their number one value. For example, a … [Read more...]

Are you living your today as if it was yesterday?

Our experience and model of the world is created by experiences, events and our reactions at the time to those moments.  Our minds will have created a connection linking the event to a feeling.  This process goes on all the time - whether we are aware of it or not.  We learn and develop based on … [Read more...]