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Are your beliefs and destructive behaviours leading you to divorce

There are many challenges couples face in times of crisis.  Many are linked to each believing their interpretataion is the truth and no other view is possible.  On top of this it is very common for each of them to have created a protection mechanism to survive.  This can include, withholding love,  defensiveness and justification, and destructive behaviours to keep themselves emotionally safe. Let me give you some examples My partner wants to hurt me Yes, they might say hurtful things … [Read more...]

Don’t destroy your relationship because you’re scared

The fear most people have is "Not being enough".  This in turn leads to the biggest fear of 'Not being loved". When problems happen these deep fears are triggered. People often do the wrong thing because they're scared.  They react to their fear and so behave in ways that they wouldn't do if they weren't. Fear is an emotional state which is important for our survival.  It's a trigger within us which will 'fire' when we are in danger.  The trigger will cause the Flight or Fight … [Read more...]