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Is your blueprint for life giving you what you want?

Most of us will have created our vision of how life should be.  However, problems arise when life isn't the way we believe it should be.  When it doesn't match our vision; a vision created, in some cases, many years before.  Call this a blueprint if you like. When this happens you have several choices: Fight for your Blueprint You can fight to change reality to match your vision.    If your partner is not behaving in the ways you believe they should then one way to get your blueprint vision … [Read more...]

Our relationship is now the best it’s ever been

These two lovely young people came to me in March of this year, seeking help to resolve issues in their marriage and, for at least one of them, believing nothing could be done to save their relationship. These are their words sent to me this week. Linden helped us save our marriage and make our relationship the best it's ever been. If you are reading this testimonial, you are likely in a similar place that my wife and I found ourselves in, March 2019. You are probably looking for hope … [Read more...]

Many couples fail to understand each other

Many couples fail to understand each other's language patterns and styles and as a result, fall into a trap. Couples and individuals, who attend sessions with me, are failing to communicate in a way the other understands.  Some believe they are communicating well but are actually misinterpreting each other's requests to connect.  This disconnection is scary and one or both of you can feel isolated. By failing to understand each other you can create a belief that your relationship has … [Read more...]

Couples who succeed know how to give

Couples who succeed have discovered how to give to their partner in the way their partner needs. Be courageous Couples who succeed have learnt to be truthful and to give love no matter what.  During difficult and painful times they know how to be totally present for their partner. To be fully present you need to focus on them completely.  This means you don't resort to criticism and you don't reject them.  You seek to understand them from their point of view.  By creating this area of … [Read more...]

Are your beliefs and destructive behaviours leading you to divorce

There are many challenges couples face in times of crisis.  Many are linked to each believing their interpretataion is the truth and no other view is possible.  On top of this it is very common for each of them to have created a protection mechanism to survive.  This can include, withholding love,  defensiveness and justification, and destructive behaviours to keep themselves emotionally safe. Let me give you some examples My partner wants to hurt me Yes, they might say hurtful things … [Read more...]