How do you get from pain to happiness

One of the frequent questions I get asked by couples is how do we get from pain to happiness.  What did we do to end up here? I see many couples and individuals who tell me one thing only to focus on the opposite. "I want to be closer to my partner" "I want to let go of the pain" "I want … [Read more...]

All relationships need growth

In today's post I want you to think about this question: Have you planned for future growth? What does your future look like for you? By this I mean your future with your partner.  Your future in your relationship. Do you have a dream for your future? When you first got together did you have a … [Read more...]

Why raking over the past is not a good idea

A number of clients who seek my help arrive wanting to go over and over what's happened in the past - sometimes in minute detail.  What has happened is important but repeatedly raking over past arguments or other negative events will only trigger the emotions you felt at the time. We all attach … [Read more...]

No one relishes being controlled

I have yet to come across anyone who tells me their burning ambition is to be controlled by their partner! But I come across couple after couple where one partner is 'hell-bent' on controlling the other. On first appearances this may not seem obvious however through one individual's desire to … [Read more...]

Couples Struggle to keep the Passion Alive

So many couples struggle to keep the passion alive and have no clue how to solve their issues. They are unaware that their behaviours are making matters worse rather than better so continue down a path of 'destruction'.  The effect is bad for themselves as individuals and their … [Read more...]