Loss of confidence can kill a marriage

Loss of confidence can have a devastating effect on a relationship or marriage.  You feel stuck not knowing what to do to resolve your problems. For many men this can lead to feelings of frustration and anger, to the point they close down and 'walk away' from the problems.  You see most men want to fix.   They see fixing as their purpose.  So not being able to fix is a really horrible place to be. They become angry - not necessarily because of the problems but because they don't know how to … [Read more...]

Why do I do what I do?

Have you ever asked yourself that question? We are all shaped by our pasts and the events that occurred in them. We form our map of the world based on these events and so create rules and behaviours which have served  either to keep us safe or to give us what we needed  in life at the time. Many of these 'rules' were probably formed when we were quite young and could in fact now be outdated.  I'm sure like me you've come across adults who  become irrationally annoyed, or those who always … [Read more...]