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A Challenge for the New Year!

Now that the New Year is well and truly under-way I thought I would set a challenge for all those who are experiencing problems in their relationship.

You see ‘life’ can get in the way.  Work, children, hobbies; all have an effect on how we behave and these behaviours can take over in our lives and we can end up forgetting about our partner.

If this goes on for a prolonged length of time then one or both of you can feel ignored, side-lined, unimportant and so not significant in your partner’s life.  Significance is important to us all as human beings.  We need to know we are special. We each meet this need in our own unique way.

I wonder how your partner feels about meeting their need?

The challenge

This will last for 30 days.  My challenge to you today is to become all you possibly can. To give – emotionally – to your partner in the way they need. I want you to do this consistently and with true commitment.  Do this for the next 30 days and then let me know what you found out.

The commitment is to be the best of who you truly are.  If you have children then put aside part of each day to be together – even if it’s only 10 minutes – but hopefully you can find more time than that.  Re-engage with those habits that you know endeared you to your partner when you first met.

Know that if you are in emotional pain then they are too.  So focus on how you could remove that pain they are experiencing.  What could you do to make them feel important, special, heard, understood.

It may be as simple as listening without defending your past behaviours.

For the next 30 days I want you to be the person who attracted your partner so they wanted to be with you.

Are you up for the challenge?