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Your emotional focus will affect your relationship

Today I want you to think about how you approach different aspects of your day and your life.  Your emotional focus. We all know if we turn up to work in a bad mood then mostly we will have a miserable day.  The day drags and parts of it can feel irritating!   A negative focus can give us a negative day. How do you approach your relationship? The same applies to your relationship.  If your focus is all about what is wrong with it you will spot the negatives.  The problem with this is it … [Read more...]

To admit you need help is a good thing

So many couples leave seeking help until it's almost too late. Frequently many don't want to admit to each other that they don't have the answers. We believe that we should be able to resolve our issues ourselves. This is all well and good if you can.  But what happens if you don't have the tools to do so?  Attempting to solve your problems from the wrong place can often make matters worse. On Friday this week there was an article in the Daily Telegraph headed "Michelle is right, we all … [Read more...]

Who Taught you about Relationships?

We learn from those around us and those trained to teach us.  From our teachers in our early years we learnt how to read, write, and add up etc We also learnt from others around us.  Our parents.  The parents of our friends.  Our friends. We continue to learn every day.  Be it when we take up a new hobby or within the work environment when we are taught new skills. We rely on experts to care for our needs - doctors, dentists, even pilots to take us on our overseas holidays.  All these … [Read more...]

Are you being misunderstood?

How we interpret someone else's words or actions is down to each and everyone of us.  The problem is that it is very easy to be misunderstood without realising it's happening. In today's post I want you to think about how you interpret your partner's words and actions.  You see it is very important that you truly understand what they mean rather than create your own interpretation.  You need to interpret what they mean rather than what you think they mean. There can be a world of difference … [Read more...]

Which are you doing?

Relationships require positive action to keep them alive and passionate.  The problem most couples with relationship problems have is they don't know  which actions are positive, good ones and which are negative, bad ones. Men and women communicate in different ways and not understanding this and mis-interpreting what they are saying, can lead you into a mine-field of problems. My Question to you in today's post is: Which are you doing? Here are a few actions you may be taking which … [Read more...]