You ARE special

Everyone is special in their own unique way. That includes you.  You ARE special. It's so easy to look at others and believe they are more intelligent, prettier, more handsome, funnier, more empathetic.... than you are. However we all have gifts, abilities and strengths -  there will be some … [Read more...]

Build resentments and your relationship will die

When couples finally seek help they have frequently already built a stack of resentments against their partner. They arrive in my sessions with their list of resentments which they have each created for themselves over the months and years. These resentments have taken hold in their … [Read more...]

Are you playing roulette with your relationship?

Couples in relationship crisis often adopt a fingers-crossed approach to their issues.  This is playing roulette with their relationship as they are not taking any new action to resolve the issues and hoping the wheel of fortune will fall in place and the problems will miraculously vanish. So my … [Read more...]

Some problems can be fixed faster than you think

One of the issues couples in crisis have is they are unaware of real severity of their problems or what is causing them. Some problems are deeper than you think and some problems can be fixed faster than you think. I saw a couple recently who came to see me believing that their marriage was … [Read more...]

Relationship Tip: Praise not Appraise

For today's post I want you to consider the following Relationship Tip Do you know how to Praise rather than Appraise? Appraise I am certain we can all connect with a time when we have had to endure the annual Work Appraisal.   Never mind how well we have done, somehow those responsible for us … [Read more...]