What men want…….

What men want is often not only what many women think they want! It's not all about sex and intimacy!  Yes, of course, that's very important and it's a known fact that men think of sex far more often than women, but a man's needs go beyond this. First and foremost A man needs to know when he is successful with you and when he makes you happy. If he feels he can't so this then he will feel a failure.   So let him know when he's done something well.  It's very easy to ignore the good … [Read more...]

Does Marriage Coaching work?

I frequently get asked "Does Marriage Coaching Work?" Well the short answer is Yes and No! Does Coaching always bring a couple back together?  Not always.  If the couple is in a relationship which is not meant to be saved but expects the Coaching to bring them back together then the answer is no - or to be more specific not in the way the couple initially expected!  The coach doesn't have a magic wand! It also doesn't work if the person or couple being coached is not willing to explore and … [Read more...]

Where is your relationship today?

How you focus on your relationship will have a massive effect on the type of relationship you have and how connected you are in your relationship.  Many couples disconnect over time and then wonder why they no longer experience the intimacy and connection they had when they first met. Let me explain in more detail by asking you to look at the following levels of where you could be today. I look to meet my needs first or I look to meet my needs without consideration of those of my … [Read more...]

We all have habits of behaviour – are yours creating a good dynamic?

Every adult will have habits of behaviour which they have developed over the years by the experiences life has given them through their childhood to where they are now. Habits which have been created to protect them or give them the outcome they believe is best for them in the past.  The problem is that some of these habits,which  I so often hear individuals say are "The way I am",  may not be serving them in the way they believe is best. "The way I am" now doesn't have to be "The Way I … [Read more...]

Are you the you, you want to be?

More to the point if you were your partner would you want to live with you? So many couples who come to my sessions are living a life which is not going to give them a successful relationship.  Many blame each other for a myriad of behaviours and problems that have - in their words - destroyed the connection they once had. Now they feel that the relationship has probably died and the only option is to move on and start again.  But they're not certain if that solution is the right … [Read more...]