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Build a better story

Many couples I see in my sessions have created stories for themselves about each other which frequently are not true.  One, or both of them have decided what the other's motives are.  What they are thinking. What they are feeling. So how do you know if your story is true?  Unless you are living … [Read more...]

Take Action before it’s too late

Many couples leave taking action until it's too late. By that I mean those who leave the decision to the last moment when life has become almost intolerable and communication has all but collapsed.  They have explored most other avenues and the pain of where they are is so great that help becomes … [Read more...]

Many couples don’t know how to hear each other

Many couples I see have totally misunderstood their partner's words and actions and when they do attempt to sit down and talk it through exacerbate the problems by failing to hear what their partner is actually saying.  Why? Men and women communicate in different ways.  You could almost say they … [Read more...]

Love Dies as Self-Protection Rises

When someone protects themselves in their relationship they are unable fully to experience feelings of love and connection with their partner. The more they protect themselves the less love they will feel. Love Dies as Self-Protection Rises Couples who come to my sessions learn what they are … [Read more...]

Have you learnt what to give

Time and again I see couples in crisis who haven't learnt how to give what each other needs. Each believes they are a giver.  And by and large they are.  Many give with love and all it seems to have do is destroy their bond and their relationship. So why is the marriage failing.  Why are each … [Read more...]