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Your emotional focus will affect your relationship

Today I want you to think about how you approach different aspects of your day and your life.  Your emotional focus. We all know if we turn up to work in a bad mood then mostly we will have a miserable day.  The day drags and parts of it can feel irritating!   A negative focus can give us a negative day. How do you approach your relationship? The same applies to your relationship.  If your focus is all about what is wrong with it you will spot the negatives.  The problem with this is it … [Read more...]

If you are stuck in a rut it’s important to discover why

I worked with this man over a period of a few months to help him to reconnect with who he really is and, as he says below, who he wants to be. These are his words: I worked with Linden through an incredibly difficult period in my life. It was the most positive experience in recent years and the investment in me has meant I have a strong and happy future ahead of me. At 37 I was going through a mid-life crisis and my behaviour materially affected my relationship with my partner of 20 … [Read more...]

Coaching benefitted many areas of his life

Over the past few months I have been working with a young man coaching him through various emotional issues. His relationships were not giving him what he needed and his reliance on them meant he couldn't move forward and meet the goals he desired in several areas of his life. His dedication to the process we worked through and his determination to achieve what was there for him to grasp has been impressive. I have recently received this email from him: During my time with Linden we … [Read more...]

What is your inner voice telling you?

Your inner voice has a powerful effect on how you live your life. For some people it is that part of them which is telling them they are a failure or not good enough, or mostly wrong.   Maybe that part which says "I am who I am and I can't change." For them it can be so powerful they become stuck and unable to see a way out. To avoid action it tells them: they must be loved 'warts and all'. This inner voice is harsh.  Harsher than you would speak to any friend, acquaintance, … [Read more...]

Do You Set Yourself Up for Failure or Success?

Whether you set yourself up for failure or success is surprisingly easy. (And you may not know you're doing it).  You may think you are determined to succeed only to find you let yourself down.  The question is what's going on within you to cause you to fail when you believe, consciously, that your desire is to succeed? Couples I see in my sessions work hard to achieve success with each other.  They practice the tools and strategies I give them.  They commit in a heartfelt way to continue … [Read more...]