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Your behaviours could be ruining your relationship

We all have behaviours which we have created and developed over the years by the experiences life has given us.  These probably started in childhood and added to over the years to where we are today. These behaviours will have been designed, without us really knowing, to, in some cases, protect … [Read more...]

Divorce is more painful than most people realise – find out how to avoid it

January is notorious for people seeking divorce. The arrival of a new year can concentrate the mind on the future. If your relationship is suffering then it may be that all you can see in front of you is pain. Pain that you won't be understood - ever That you're not important to your … [Read more...]

Are you withholding the one thing you want?

When a couple is in crisis it is highly likely that one or both of them will have created behaviours to protect themselves from emotional pain. For couples who come to see me my role is to help them see what they are doing to themselves, to each other, and so to their relationship. So my … [Read more...]

What happens when your energy is focussed on avoiding pain

We are designed to avoid pain.  Therefore very often we focus our energy on this one important aspect of our lives.  Avoid pain whenever possible. The problem with this, within a relationship, is we forget about gaining pleasure. Many people in pain will do anything to avoid more.  This is … [Read more...]

Relationships can suffer when other areas of your life aren’t working

Relationships can suffer badly when you have problems in other areas of your life. Equally if your relationship is suffering then it can have a knock-on effect on your work or some other area of your life. If this is happening to you then it is worth exploring all possibilities before making a … [Read more...]