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Do you grow from conflict?

Conflict - that scary word for some signals failure Many of the couples who I see in my sessions are dealing with conflict on a daily basis.  Arguments that go round and round in circles and leave both of them exhausted, bewildered and hurt. So how do you benefit or grow from conflict?  Is it … [Read more...]

Couples who keep their relationship alive do this

Couples who keep their relationship alive long-term have discovered some essential behaviours which ensure they use constantly. This week I have decided to share a few of them so you too can start improving your relationship. When an emotionally negative issue arises rather than assume they … [Read more...]

An affair does not have to signal the end

When someone has an affair the result can be devastating for the other partner.  This couple were in turmoil.  The emotions were raw and their future together looked bleak at best. This is how they now view their relationship and future after working with me over several months.  Their journey to … [Read more...]

Why raking over the past is not a good idea

A number of clients who seek my help arrive wanting to go over and over what's happened in the past - sometimes in minute detail.  What has happened is important but repeatedly raking over past arguments or other negative events will only trigger the emotions you felt at the time. We all attach … [Read more...]

No one relishes being controlled

I have yet to come across anyone who tells me their burning ambition is to be controlled by their partner! But I come across couple after couple where one partner is 'hell-bent' on controlling the other. On first appearances this may not seem obvious however through one individual's desire to … [Read more...]